What is a ‘gray divorce’ and how is it different from the typical divorce?

A ‘gray divorce’ refers to a split that happens between an older husband and wife, often after many years of marriage. The ‘gray’ in ‘gray divorce’ refers to the color of the divorcing couple’s hair. With more and more couples over fifty, or even over sixty-five, choosing to part ways, the phenomenon has also earned the names of ‘silver splitter’ and ‘diamond divorces.’ While it might be unsettling to think that forty years of marriage is no guarantee for many more, it is necessary to think about the particular issues that arise when senior citizens divorce. Contrary to what the media would have you believe, gray divorces do not typically come about as part of a man’s midlife crisis. Rather, they are an outgrowth of advancements in medicine and changes in society. With people living longer than ever before, it is getting harder to “grin and bear it” in a
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Is it true that courts favor mothers in child custody decisions?

While it remains a common belief that courts favor, or are even biased for, mothers in custody disputes, this is not the case. The belief stems from past practices and trends in court. When divorce became more common in the 1970s, society, including the judges within it, assumed a gendered division of labor within households. Before women entered the workforce in large numbers, men were expected to be the providers. Women, on the other hand, were seen as not only the primary, but the “natural” caregivers to children. As such, custody agreements tended to favor women as they would, in the view of society, be better able to provide for the emotional and everyday needs of their children. Times have changed though; in marriages, it is much more common for men and women to share childrearing responsibilities. Now, a majority of women work outside the home. Additionally, now that same-sex
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How can I take control of my financial life after my divorce?

As published by Morgan Stanley – Read entire article (PDF). Divorce is seldom easy for anyone involved. Still, there are steps you can take now that may make the process less stressful and help simplify your life when the divorce is finalized. The more you know about the divorce process and your legal and financial options, the better equipped you will be to pursue your goals and protect your best interests. The information included here can help you start to think through key issues. Remember, though, that a competent attorney is essential, and a knowledgeable Financial Advisor can help you deal with the intricacies of planning, both for short term realities and long term possibilities. Q: What should I focus on first? A: Throughout the divorce process, it is critical to focus on your specific objectives and preferred outcomes. For example, try to keep clear answers to these questions in
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Massachusetts Child Support Guidelines – Effective August 1, 2013

Massachusetts has revised the Child Support Guidelines with the new guidelines taking effect on August 1, 2013. The guidelines adjust the formula for child support and provides judges a little more use of their discretion in determining the total amount of income from both parties. Read the new Massachusetts Child Support Guidelines.
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How do I initiate a divorce?

Additional Info: I am married and want a divorce from a alcoholic. He doesn’t want to leave. Is there anything I can do to make him leave legally? You can initiate an action in the Superior Court and in that action ask for your husband to vacate the marital home. If you feel that your safety, or that of your children, is at issue, you can apply for a restraining order through the Superior Court or county courthouse. Good luck.
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Is his debt my debt when we divorce?

Additional Information: If I get divorced, will I still have to pay for his debt? Even though it was all his debt? Will I be able to keep the house?  Married 8 years, no children, he worked off and on and has debt in many credit cards. I transferred balance from 3 of his credit cards to my credit card for a lower interest rate. He told me he was going to pay them but he hasn’t. We have a condo in Ashland. I put $15,000 cash down, his contribution was on credit, now he says that his debt is my debt too because we are married. I feel like I’m drowning and don’t know what to do. Help!! ATTORNEY ANSWER: There is always an understanding that marital assets and debt are joint, if you can prove to the court that it was his and that your down payment was
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Want to get divorced but my husband will not sign the papers.

Additional Information: I am filing for divorce from my husband. How long will it take to get the divorce if he is refusing to sign the papers? My husband left me December 2011. We have no assets together, we rent a house in Framingham. We’ve been married for 19 years with two children ages 17 and 15. ATTORNEY ANSWER: I am sorry that you are going through this, the fact that he is refusing to cooperate will slow down the process, but he cannot permanently stop it. The more you can get him to cooperate the faster it will be. You will be helped by retaining a local attorney. That is one way of streamlining and helping you through the process as fast as possible. Take care and I hope that things work out.
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How do I go about getting my ex-husband off the deed to the house?

Additional Information: In the divorce agreement, he gave me our house in Dover, in return I didn’t touch his pension now I’m trying to get a home equity loan cannot do it while his name is on the deed so am trying to find out how to get his name off the deed. ATTORNEY ANSWER: This process is very common and it is very simple, he needs to sign a quitclaim deed which is a copy of your old deed which states he is giving you the property and taking his name off of it. Most of the time it is part of the divorce process and we do it for our clients all the time. If he continues to refuse, then you may be able to file a contempt of court action against him forcing him to sign and then request the legal fees for prosecuting the contempt. Take
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When Can I Get Remarried?

Fortunately, most states do not currently  require a person or persons to have a  “remarriage” waiting period after a divorce, but some states will allow a judge to create one in certain cases. Should you remarry during this time period, then the new marriage would generally be considered voidable, meaning that either party to the new marriage could ask to have said marriage declared invalid. Some states may require remarriage waiting periods during which both parties may appeal the divorce decree.
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I am a single mom and would like to move to Boston.

Additional Information: I would like to move to Boston where my new husband will be. I have a 1 and a half year old whose father rarely sees her and there is no child support order. I told him I wouldn’t take him for support because he is already paying $1000 month for another child. (He and I were never married.) What do I need to do as far as custody rights so that we can move to Boston? ATTORNEY ANSWER: I am sorry that you are going through this and I hope that your new relationship works out. Right now since there is no child support or paternity issue and you are not in court, there is nothing legally stopping you from moving. If however, there was a court action started by him or by you prior to your move and prior to you establishing jurisdiction in Massachusetts then
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